The transformative journey from living an ordinary life to one that makes people turn heads in awe — becoming a, wow woman — is an inner trek that involves self-reflection, self-love, and a breadth of personal development. Based on insights shared by Katia Stern, a life coach, author, and self-proclaimed, wow woman, this process isn’t just about external perceptions; it’s a profound internal evolution that shapes how a woman sees herself and, subsequently, how the world sees her.
Embracing Personal Audacity: Commit to pursuing your desires and stepping outside conventional boxes after the age of 40 — it’s never too late to transform and inspire.
Self-Love as the Foundation: Prioritize self-love and acceptance, understanding these are prerequisites for a significant transformation.
Navigating Femininity and Masculinity: Learn how to balance masculine and feminine energies, especially in relationships, to maintain healthy dynamics and personal satisfaction.
From Now to “Wow”: Decoding the Transformational Process
The conversion from an everyday woman to one that captures attention and admiration often involves charting a path that catapults personal development to the forefront. Katia’s body transformation journey was a pivotal starting point where she embraced an inspiring vision — competing in fitness bikini body building competitions. This goal was neither born from dissatisfaction nor merely the desire to look better; it came from an acknowledgment of personal potential and the pursuit of a compelling vision.
This goal-setting, or rather, desire-setting, is a testament to the power of aspiring for meaningful and far-reaching objectives. As Katia asserted, “It’s not a nice thing. And I was doing that outside part. I was doing pretty well, but that didn’t bring me that satisfaction that I was searching for.”
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The cornerstone of becoming a, wow woman, as illustrated by Katia, lies in cultivating profound self-love. This isn’t merely about pampering oneself with external luxuries — although these can be expressions of self-love — but about the transformative acceptance of one’s starting point, forgiving oneself, and undertaking actions that align with self-care and respect. Katia Stern conveyed the nuance of self-love, emphasizing, “Self-love is how you would want your partner, your lover, would want to treat yourself.”
The Consequences of Repressed Femininity
A recurring theme in Katia’s discourse was the nuanced struggle women often face with suppressed sensuality and femininity due to societal norms and professional obligations. She shared insights on how these societal pressures compel women to adopt a more, masculine energy, mainly when ascending professional ladders and fulfilling multiple life roles. The challenge, therefore, lies in re-embracing one’s femininity, especially in romantic relationships where the interplay of masculine and, feminine energies, is crucial. Katia advised, “Use that, feminine energy, to establish trust in the universe and learn to surrender, to create a space for a masculine man to step in and balance the dynamic.”
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Becoming a Wow Woman: Finding your Unique quality
A, wow woman, essence is deeply etched in her ambition to fuel dreams and desires that align with her true self — not dictated by external expectations or comparisons. It’s an invitation to live boldly and authentically. Katia sternly rejects generic standards of success and ‘wowness’, advocating instead for a personalized approach, “my wow is not your wow.”
Language plays a fundamental role in shaping our mindset towards achieving our ambitions. Katia’s recommendation to replace the word “goal” — which carries a certain masculine weight — with “desire” is a strategic reframe that can energize and feminize the pursuit of our aims. This shift in vocabulary can have a profound effect on our mental approach, influencing our perseverance and excitement towards achieving these desires.
Katia Stern’s narrative shows us that the wow is not just a badge of external marvel; it’s an inside out revolution of self-perception, confidence, and the art of balancing our power. By cultivating self-love that manifests as a disciplined commitment to our desires, embracing our inherent femininity, and trusting in the power of personal evolution without the bounds of age, every woman has the capacity to evoke her own brand of wow. Through this, she becomes an inspiration not just for herself, but to others who are privileged to witness her transformation.
Through personal audacity, self-love as the foundation, and navigating femininity and masculinity, Katia Stern implores women worldwide to embark on their own journeys of remarkable transformation. It’s a clarion call to stop waiting on the sidelines, embrace the complex tapestry of emotions and experiences, and step into the spotlight of your own life’s stage where wow is not just an exclamation, but your state of being.
Sexuality often remains a taboo topic, shrouded in mystery and replete with stereotypes. However, beneath the layers of cultural narratives lies an immense potential for healing, personal growth, and intimate connection. In this riveting podcast episode, Life Coach Myrna Young and Dr. Liz Letford unveil insights into how sex can transcend mere physical gratification, becoming a tool for profound emotional healing and restoration of the, nervous system. By delving into the intertwined worlds of relationships, body awareness, and emotional responsiveness, this exploration reveals how truly transformative the act of sex can be when approached with vulnerability and consciousness.
Sexual Healing and Emotional Freedom: Understanding the deeper emotional currents within sexual experiences can lead to significant healing of past traumas and emotional blockages and promote sexuality.
Dynamic Relationship Roles: Men and women can benefit from exploring both giving and receiving roles in sex, breaking away from traditional power dynamics and discovering personal empowerment.
Body Church Movement: Dr. Liz Letford’s unique practice uses collective somatic experiences, such as movement and sound, to create coherence among diverse groups for systemic healing, unity and sexuality.
The Intersection of Sex and Emotional Well-being
A core theme that emerged from the discussion is the relationship between, sexual intimacy, and emotional well-being. Dr. Liz articulates a perspective where physical closeness serves as the doorway to not just pleasure, but also the space where one can confront and heal unresolved emotional conflicts. She describes how every sexual encounter acts as a stage, reflecting earlier life events that may have impacted one’s psyche, a process especially potent when memories tied to these emotions elude conscious awareness.
The interaction of sexuality with emotional well-being underscores the raw potential that lies in our physical interactions to act as a conduit for catharsis.
Dr. Liz notes, “Our sexual nature, our erotic nature, is exquisitely designed to heal our emotional, our physical, and our spiritual bodies.“
The healing is not just an abstract idea but has tangible effects, from soothing hormonal imbalances to aiding in recovery from emotional scars. The implications are vast, suggesting that by redefining sex as a mutual, emotionally-attuned experience, individuals can work through deeply entrenched issues and foster more harmonious relationships.
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Reshaping Power Dynamics in Sexuality
The dialogue seamlessly shifts to contemplate the energy dynamics within sexual relationships. The traditional script writes men as givers and women as receivers, but Dr. Liz challenges these norms by advocating for a fluid exchange where individuals can alternate roles. The notion presented is not to obliterate gender roles but to empower individuals to explore their sexuality and embrace both dimensions of giving and receiving power.
Quotes from Dr. Liz encapsulate this shift: “ultimately power […] everyone deserves to taste what that tastes like.” By acquainting oneself with differing polarities of power, a person can unlock a more versatile form of expression and connection. Embracing one’s full spectrum of capabilities creates room for a more fulfilling and equitable intimate interaction. Men learning to hold space for potent, feminine energy, and women discovering their own assertive power can reinvigorate the foundations of personal and partnership growth.
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When your body feels safe, that’s when your body opens up to its healing bliss. Its this bliss ecstatic state, which we’ve called orgasm. And so if you are receiving only because you’ve been told that, because you said society told you to do that because you’re afraid.
If you’ve never expressed what it’s like to give, to penetrate, to take, and all of the expressions of that penetrative energy, your system has the potential to be out of balance. And so I teach this, I have something called dragon school, where I teach women how to step into their power, their containment. What we’ve traditionally associated with the men is giving, penetrating, holding. And so I went to dominatrix school and trained as a dominatrix.
I don’t necessarily need to use pain, or deep penetration, put pleasure where the pain is. So I don’t really identify as a dominatrix, but it’s the closest thing that people can associate with what I do. So I teach women how to step into their dragon archetype, their protector. They’re badass. And it’s really so healing. So just by embodying these other energies, we are able to express the thing that we’ve been told is not nice to be expressed, or, shame on you, or.
Collective Healing Through the Body Church Movement
Dr. Liz introduces a communal aspect of healing rites through the, Body Church movement. Blending physical movement, sound, and storytelling within an intentionally diverse group setting offers a profoundly inclusive platform for societal healing. Moments in the conversation shed light on the idea that sharing and witnessing each other’s emotional journeys can foster understanding and empathy across historical divides such as race, gender and sexuaity.
This practice pushes the boundaries of individual healing into the realm of collective catharsis. It suggests that to address the societal fractures, an embodied approach that taps into the resonance of human connection is key. As Dr. Liz remarks, “It’s vibrating the body and entraining the body to a different frequency.” This notion of communal vibration shifts the focus from isolated experiences to shared human truths, potentially bridging gaps of misunderstanding and opening pathways to societal reconciliation.
Unveiling the Transformative Implications of Sex and Sexuality
Throughout the transformative dialogue between Myrna Young and Dr. Liz Letchford, it becomes abundantly clear that sex is more than an act; it is an interplay of energies, a canvas for emotional expression, and a pathway toward personal and communal fulfillment. The exploration transcends conventional understanding, positioning sex as a platform for healing past wounds, rebalancing power within relationships, and even serving as a community ritual for collective healing. This forward-thinking approach reimagines intimacy, encourages individuals to step into their full expressive potential, and fosters a more connected and empathetic society, stirring the vibrations of change through the shared rhythm of our bodies.
Relationship coach Andre Paradis joins host Myrna Young to discuss the topic of, why he chooses, and why women often struggle to choose the right partner. Andre explains that men are becoming more hesitant to enter into relationships due to the changing dynamics and expectations placed on them. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the natural dance between masculine and feminine energies and how women can tap into their femininity to attract the right partner. Andre offers valuable insights and advice for both single individuals and those in committed relationships.
In this thought-provoking episode, Host Myrna Young and, dating coach, Andre Paradis, delve into the fascinating world of relationships. Drawing from Andre’s experiences as a relationship coach, we explore the reasons, why he chooses you, as many women find themselves alone on, Valentine’s Day. Andre sheds light on the dynamics of modern relationships and offers valuable insights into, why he chooses you, and why women should avoid approaching men. By understanding the natural dance between masculinity and femininity, we can create and maintain successful relationships.
Andre gives a potent example to illustrate the masculine and feminine. He says the sperm is the mover and the egg just sits and waits. So ladies, please wait for the man to approach you. Men need to hunt and when you approach them you just get introduced to the little guy.
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Key Takeaways
Men are increasingly choosing to be alone due to the challenges of finding value in relationships with women in a culture that promotes independence and boss babe mentalities.
The process of a man choosing a woman is not based on intellectual decisions or a checklist, but rather on feelings and chemistry.
Intimacy starts with vulnerability and being present in the moment, allowing the natural dynamic between masculine and feminine energies to unfold.
The Number One Reason Men and Women Are Alone on Valentine’s Day
In today’s society, men are finding it increasingly difficult to find value in relationships with women. The rise of the boss babe mentality and the push for independence have created a culture where men are expected to follow a woman’s lead and be 50/50 partners. However, this goes against the natural instincts of men, who are wired to provide, protect, and cherish women. The cultural shift towards masculine qualities in women has made it challenging for men to connect and form meaningful relationships.
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Why He Chooses You
Why he chooses you. The process of a man choosing a woman is not based on intellectual decisions or a checklist. It is driven by feelings and chemistry. Men respond to a woman’s energy and presence, and they are instantly drawn to feminine qualities such as warmth, receptiveness, and vulnerability. When a woman takes the lead and approaches a man, it disrupts the natural dynamic and can be a turnoff for men. It is important for women to allow men to take the lead and be receptive to their advances.
Dating advice: On the First date expect it to be akward. Don’t make a decision on the man before the 3rd date. Andre says the woman brings the energy so ladies remember to smile and be laid back. Do not conduct the date like a job interview. It is a turnoff. Even is you are fine and have all the qualities a man is looking for he will say she of okay BUT. You don’t want to be a BUT.
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Intimacy is a crucial aspect of any successful relationship. It is the deep connection and emotional closeness that allows two individuals to truly understand and support each other. Intimacy starts with vulnerability, which is often initiated by the, feminine energy, in the relationship. When a woman opens up and shares her fears, insecurities, and desires, it creates a safe space for the man to do the same. This vulnerability fosters trust and deepens the emotional bond between partners.
For example, if you are nervous on the first date and worried you will say the wrong thing sharing this with your date shows vulnerability and starts intimacy. He may even share that he is nervous as well.
Women are showing up saying he’s got to meet me up here. Ladies it’s not working, this is not what attracts a man, this does not make you attractive; you know sexy, magnetic warm. It has the exact opposite effect. Why he chooses you, is because he appreciates a feminine woman. Those masculine qualities that you so encouraged to have by society, results in men actually skipping men away. Masculine men, are not interested in, masculine women. It’s very simple hunters don’t date hunters.
What I mean as a rule so keep that in mind. It’s nature in action. The more masculine the woman, the more, Boss Babe, and you go- girl, the more the man goes his way. Boss Babe it’s beautiful for work and making money, but the masculine men won’t stand for it. They will literally just avoid you like the plague.
There is a lot of conversation around why women are so masculine in this era, and I don’t want to you don’t want to get sidetracked on this, but I’m just going to make this comment. Women are stating their demands, you’re right and the men, they’re running from that because they don’t want a woman that’s telling them what to do. So what makes a, man choose a woman, because that’s basically where we’re going with this conversation.
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Why he chooses you? Men respond to women’s energy and presence. A, feminine woman, is a woman who’s receptive, who is magnetic, who’s warm, who’s inviting, who’s happy, joyful in her body in that moment. That feminine energy brings us straight out of our heads and brings us completely present to you. Men can’t think in the presence of the magnetic warm energy of a woman.
We caught up in the eyes and the smile and the way she’s speaking, all the little mannerism and the man be like I can’t think in the presence of feminine woman. This is why the man need femininity, because it takes us out of our heads, brings us present in our bodies. This is how and, why a man chooses a woman. He knows right away because his body responds to her energy.
Conclusion
Understanding the dynamics of relationships and the dance between masculine and feminine energies is essential for creating and maintaining successful partnerships. By embracing femininity and allowing men to take the lead, women can attract and build meaningful connections with high-value men. Intimacy, rooted in vulnerability and emotional closeness, is the foundation of a strong and fulfilling relationship. So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s embrace our natural energies and create the love and connection we desire.
Remember, relationships are not a one-size-fits-all formula. Each individual and partnership is unique, and it is important to find what works best for you. By seeking guidance from relationship experts like Andre Paradis, you can gain valuable insights and tools to navigate the complexities of modern relationships.
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You can use your, intuition, in the, transformation, of your, business, by paying attention to signs. There’s signs like for example, you open a magazine and there’s something that pops out at you or a song comes on the radio and it triggers something you were asking the universe for an answer.
Jenny Fenig specializes in empowering creative women, entrepreneurs, to increase their confidence, impact, money and time-freedom by mixing modern and ancient practices. Jenny spent the first decade of her career in the corporate space as a public relations executive and event producer. Jenny then shifted her focus to working with, self-employed women, helping them package their magic to exponentially grow their, business, income and joy. She’s proud to lead the most trailblazing online community for transformational coaches, consultants, creatives and wellness professionals working with the energy of their intuition, the moon, and the seasons. Jenny is the author of “Get Gutsy” and also a podcast host. She was a Silver Stevie Award Winner for Coach of the Year.
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How Monpreneurs can use signs for Business Transformation
A mompreneur is a mom who is an, entrepreneur, working her business from home while raising her kids. A great visual is kid in one hand and phone in the other!
I tell you it’s actually one of the most beautiful things I know.
Myrna – You mentioned, intuition, and you mentioned vision and clairvoyance in your bio, can you share how, intuition, can help, entrepreneurs, in the, transformation, of their, brand.
Jenny – You can use your, intuition, for, business transformation, by paying attention to signs. There’s, signs, like you’ll open a magazine and there’s something that pops out to you or a song comes on the radio and it triggers something you were asking the universe for an answer.
Let’s say you’ve been struggling with something or pondering a question, you can get your answer from daily living. These, signs, will continue to be around you all the time you just have to to open to the universe talking to you. You’ll be in a conversation and someone will drop a line and you would be like that’s exactly what I needed to hear that day, so I’m a big believer of using, intuition, and, signs, to get answers to the, transformation, of your brand.
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You don’t need to be drinking from a fire hose, we’re living in a world with so much information, the news cycle never ends. Social media never goes to sleep.
So let’s connect the dots on, signs, and, intuition. Your mindset has to be open for instruction and inspiration. You have to have a mindset for, transformation.
Myrna – I received a, sign, one day I was reading the newspaper. I saw an article about a Life Coach. That was my, sign, and I used my, intuition, to know that becoming a, Life Coach, was my purpose.
How do entrepreneurs use intuition for transformation
This is where your own spiritual practice comes into play. You can just say to God or the Universe “I’m open, I’m ready, show me the way. Show me a, sign, help me use my, intuition, to know where to go next in the, transformation, of my, business. Then just open up just open up and trust and know that the answer may not come on your exact timetable, like within in the next hour; but it will come.
We are always being guided. We all have angels and guides that show you these, signs, and inspirations.
As women we get up get up and put on those heels and go to work Monday through Friday from nine to whenever, because that’s the game. That would be very much kind of the setup of the, sun. The, sun, is going to always rise in the East and set in the West. Women are not built to work with, sun, energy.
How women can use the feminine energy of the moon for transformation
On the other hand, when we look at the, moon, it is a more, feminine energy.
Women are very connected to energy of the, moon. The, moon, is in a different place in the sky every night.
It’s just so fascinating to me that as women our energy changes during the lunar cycle, just like the, moon’s, energy changes during the lunar cycle. I was never taught this growing up, it was something I learned over time. I was forcing myself to show up every day and be the same time like the, sun. I was doing this for decades.
How to use the phases and energy of the, moon, as, entrepreneurs
There are four main phases of each lunar cycle:
There’s 13 moons in a year and there’s 12 months in a year.
We go through a full lunar cycle when we go from a, new moon, back into another, new moon. The, moon, is always changing.
The, moon, is always changing and growing in terms of her light in the sky. When that light diminishes, we go through that entire lunar cycle and so at the beginning of a cycle we have what’s called a, new moon. When you see the light on the right side of the, moon, that’s when you know it’s a, new moon, you’re in a new phase.
This is when women can start their, transformation, journey because they can harness the lunar energy really tap into their vision.
New moon and Transformation
During the, new moon, phase, you will be resting, and renewing. This is where, transformation, takes place. You will be saying I want to put my energy and my focus for this upcoming lunar cycle on this project.
You can use a, moon, cycle magic tracker to help you use the phases of the, moon, for your, business, transformation. You could say, the date of the, new moon, is this, so I should be feeling this. My, intuition, should be this and my intention for this, new moon, should be this.
Setting a plan for your Transformation Art
My intention is, I’m going to be open
I’m going to be open to, signs
I’m going to be courageous
Get tactical on goals and vision.
Set a promotional plan for this, business transformation.
During this phase, I’m going to ramp up my health and fitness practice by ensuring that I sweat five times a week
The next phase of the, moon, cycle is the Half Moon. It is 7 days to a week after the, new moon. This is called a first quarter, moon. This energy is is connected to personal growth, action and commitment. This is where you make a plan for personal growth to help with the, transformation, of your, business. You take action on a next step, and you make a commitment to the, transformation, of your brand.
You’re going to check back in and say I’m going to go back and look at my intention that I set in the, new moon, phase and look back at my goals and see how am I am doing. How far have I come in my, transformation? If your measure is not up to your goals, this may be a time to take action and double down.
Maybe you realize it’s time to make a shift, because you realize you’re not in alignment or the world has changed and you need to make some pivots. You also don’t want to be anchorless where you can get thrown off course when the winds of the storm come. That would knock any of the progress you made in your, transformation, back to ground zero.
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The Full Moon and, Transformation
A week after the half moon, about seven days later, you’re going to get to the, full moon. We all know what the full moon looks like, it’s glorious. That’s when we’re in our fullest power. The moon is in her fullest Power. My sign is Taurus so I love the, full moon in Taurus.
As women we all went through our bleeding years where we had a menstrual cycle. The energy of a, full moon, is connected to the energy of ovulation. It’s the few days in our cycle where we could conceive a child.
That’s the energy that the, moon, is putting out and we can you can tap into it. We can tap into the, transformational energy, of the, full moon, and 10x the, transformation, of our brand.
You are hot stuff during this phase of the, full moon, cycle. Everything you touch can turn to gold; but you got to go for it.
You got to send that email,
you got to place that phone call,
you got to go to the event
put your name in the hat
send the proposal
Whatever it is, you got to believe in yourself and be willing to make those bold moves and bold decisions for the, transformation, of your company and brand. That’s the energy of the, full moon.
The next lunar phase is the, last quarter moon . The, last quarter moon, the energy of that phase of the cycle is let go to rise higher. If you invested time and energy into your health and wellness it is the time to see those results. Rise higher in your relationships, rise higher in your financial growth.
Let go of what didn’t happen and focus on the next cycle of the, New moon, for those projects.
We have a coach certification program to help life coaches in the, transformation, of their coaching, business. I call this co-creating and coaching with the cosmos. We’re really tuned into this framework called the magic makers method.
Myrna – I’ve been intimately connected with the, full moon, because the, full moon, affects the tides and our internal system which is made of 70% water; but I didn’t pay any attention to the other phases of the moon like then, new moon, or the, last quarter moon.
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How Can women entrepreneurs build confidence by learning to distinguish between their inner voice, and their, inner critic?
Jenny – The, inner voice, it’s really that ability to get still and to get quiet which is so important for women, entrepreneurs. We’ve got eight million notifications coming in on our phone and it’s buzzing on our computer and the noise is everywhere. So we need to clear out and have a regular practice where we get quiet and get still so we can hear our, inner voice.
Listen to that, inner voice, to know and feel what’s pulling you forward and what’s pulling you back. We have that connection with our bodies and when you start working with nature, working with the seasons, working with cosmic energy, you’ll find that place inside of yourself again and you’ll be able to distinguish between that inner knowing and the, inner critic.
The, inner critic, is that gremlin in your head that stops your, transformation
You’ll never be good enough
You’re making a mistake
You don’t belong there
You’re screwing it up
They’re all laughing at you
I could never put my message out there, because there could be some mean person who wants to dump on me and I can’t handle it that. Your, business cannot get to a, transformation, cycle with the, inner critic, in your head.
I love the book “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert she lays it out there’s, it’s really about guidance. Creative people we create through ideas right and we need ideas to come to us from our, inner voice, which is our source.
When we get ideas from our, inner voice, and we don’t act on it, we can’t get mad when someone else become successful from an idea we didn’t act on.
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Shelby Carino joins host Myrna Young to discuss the reality of, twin flames. Shelby shares her personal journey with, twin flames, and explains that, twin flame, is an energy, not a person. She emphasizes the importance of understanding oneself and working on personal growth before attracting a twin flame.
Shelby also addresses the push and pull dynamic in, twin flame relationships and the need for women to lead and guide their partners spiritually. She offers a course to help women break free from limiting beliefs and outdated patterns in order to manifest their, twin flame.
Welcome back to the Transform Your Mind to Transform Your Life radio, podcast, and television show. I’m your host, life coach Myrna Young. Today, we have a special guest, Shelby Carino, who will be joining us to discuss the fascinating topic of navigating the reality of, twin flames. If you’ve never heard of, twin flames, before, I encourage you to stay until the end because knowledge is power. Understanding the concept of, twin flames, can help us attract and cultivate deep, meaningful relationships. So let’s dive right in and explore this intriguing topic.
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What is a, twin flame meaning. According to Shelby, twin flame definition, is an energy, a fifth dimention energy, that manifests through the mirrored effect of our higher soul journey. It represents the other half of ourselves, whether it be the masculine or feminine energy. The, twin flame, is not just a person, but an energy that helps us grow and ascend spiritually. It is a deep, soulful connection that goes beyond surface-level compatibility.
Shelby’s personal journey with, twin flames, began in 2011 when she experienced a spiritual awakening. She stumbled upon the concept of twin flames through a meditation and manifested a person who embodied the qualities she associated with a, twin flame. However, she soon realized that the, twin flame, is not solely about the person, but about the energy and the depth of the connection.
Shelby highlights the misrepresentation of, twin flames, in popular culture, particularly in the documentary “Twin Flame Universe” on Netflix. She cautions against the dangerous ideology perpetuated by some self-proclaimed gurus who claim to have the ultimate knowledge of, twin flames. These individuals often convince people that there is only one specific person who is their, twin flame, and that they must do whatever it takes to be with that person. This misrepresentation can lead to obsession, stalking, and unhealthy behaviors.
Shelby emphasizes that the, twin flame, is not about being fixated on one person, but about the energy and the growth it brings. It is a journey of self-discovery and spiritual development. The, twin flame, is an energy that can be manifested through various relationships, not just one specific person.
Twin flame seperation: The Dance of the Runner and Chaser
There is such a thing as, twin flame seperation. In the realm of, twin flames, there is often a dynamic of the runner and chaser. This occurs when one person becomes overwhelmed by the intensity of the connection and tries to distance themselves, while the other person desperately chases after them. Shelby explains that this dynamic arises when the chaser projects their energy onto the runner, overwhelming them and causing them to retreat.
To break free from this, twin flame seperation, Shelby advises women to focus on their own spiritual growth and balance their feminine and masculine energies. Women have the power to guide their partners into their own, spiritual awakening, but they must first be in control of themselves and their own energy. By doing so, they can create a healthy and balanced dynamic in the, twin flame relationship.
Twin flame love: Breaking Free from Limiting Patterns and Beliefs
In, twin flame love, Shelby’s work revolves around helping women break free from limiting subconscious patterns and outdated spiritual beliefs. She offers a relationship reset course that helps individuals reset their foundation of what relationships are truly about. By challenging old belief systems and integrating new perspectives, individuals can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
The, twin flame, journey is an opportunity for individuals to transform their minds and release outdated beliefs and escape the reality of the, fake twin. It requires deep self-reflection, spiritual growth, and a willingness to let go of old patterns that no longer serve them. Through Shelby’s courses and guidance, individuals can gain the knowledge and tools to navigate the, twin flame love, with grace and authenticity.
Twin Flame vs Soul mate
Navigating the reality of, twin flames, is a profound and transformative journey. It is not just about finding a, soul mate, but about connecting with the deepest parts of ourselves and experiencing spiritual growth. The, twin flame vs soul mate, energy serves as a catalyst for self-discovery and ascension.
As we continue to evolve and move into the, fifth dimension energy, the concept of, twin flames, becomes even more relevant. We are being called to go beyond surface-level connections and seek deeper, more meaningful relationships. We are going deeper than even, soul mate, relationships. By understanding the true nature of twin flames and working on our own spiritual development, we can attract and cultivate the relationships that align with our highest selves.
Twin Flames Conclusion
In conclusion, the journey of, twin flames, is a path of love, growth, and spiritual awakening. It is an opportunity to connect with our true essence and experience the highest form of love, twin flame love. By embracing the energy of, twin flames, and working on our own spiritual development, we can create fulfilling and transformative relationships. So, let us embark on this journey with open hearts and open minds, ready to embrace the depth and beauty that, twin flames, have to offer.
Andre Paradis, relationship coach shares dating advice on what makes masculine men commit to one woman. Sometimes these masculine men are scary, but these are the guys who want a woman and a family to take care of. They want a kingdom, which is you and the kids and a family. These, masculine men, want to provide for and cherish you.
Andre Paradis, Relationship Coach, NLP Coach, Educator of Effective Communications,Published Writer, Public Speaker, and Ordained Minister. Grew up in Canada, then became a professional dancer, dancing withlegends including Michael Jackson, Prince, Paula Abdul, Julio Eglesias to name a few. Later he attended a workshop called “Understanding Women.” And studied and learned from some of the biggest relationship masters (Dr. Pat Allen, Dr.Esther Perel, Dr. John Gray, Shantie Feldhan, and Alison Armstrong). He started sharing hisknowledge with friends and family.
He saw that this knowledge actually helped peoplelead happier lives with the people they love. He found a new purpose in life… The BigCalling deep inside him. He then sold his successful auto shop and launched Project Equinox Coaching to help men and women learn to build stronger, long-lasting, andhealthy love relationships. For some clients, he even officiates their wedding.”
Myrna: I think love is in trouble. Why do you think relationships are so difficult now?
Andre: It’s a no brainer, I have seen it coming for about a decade now. It is the difference between men and women. You know Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Men say, why did you talk so much? And women saying stuff like, he doesn’t talk. But 10 years ago, it started shifting in the past five years incredibly quick. Is the concept of equality in the world, equal rights, equal pay, equal opportunities, fantastic for the feminist movement, I get it.
The core being that men should be like women, and women should be like men to be a good woman. So, we raise women up to be strong, independent, powerful. This is fantastic. But it’s sort of over calibrated into women living like men. And then we teach young men, to be sweet, sensitive, vulnerable, talkative, showing vulnerability makes them boys.
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Why equality is the killer of romance
Myrna: Are we saying that men should be not vulnerable?
Andre: There’s a lot of data on this and we’ll talk about that a little bit. The opposite of what people think, people think less offers more protection towards women and children. Everything I teach is different. While the possibilities for money can bring opportunity or, equality, in the realm of relationships you depolarize everything with, equality.
Men and women need, polarity, to be attracted to each other. So, it’s masculine and feminine. It’s a positive magnet vs a negative magnet, it’s black and white. In all the shades in between. The more polarity in a relationship, the more effective it is. So, we are neutralizing relationships when we insist on, equality. It’s the kiss of death in relationships. Don’t do it.
Myrna: You said a couple of things there. Yep. us the first thing you said was that problem is that men don’t talk, men don’t listen. These are masculine traits, and the feminine traits are woman wanting to talk is no longer the problem. So, the problem with relationships today is that men are feminine and women are more masculine.
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Traits of masculine men
Andre: Correct, we have 3 types of men. The boys are the ones who lie, cheat and scam women. They don’t want to work. They want women to work. They are the feminists. They say “You go girl, get that double promotion” and they lay on the couch and spoon the dog while the women work.
Then we have the guys who are somewhere in the middle. They’re masculine enough to have jobs and cars and have their own place. They don’t live in a basement of their mother’s house any longer. But when it comes to women, they don’t take you out, or they’ll say stuff like “what do you want to do? They are overly polite and bland, women hate that. So, these guys get to be easily reversed, rehabilitated into masculine stuff.
Now the real man, masculine men, is a whole different beast, they know who they are because they actually were raised in a system, they had male role models and they understand the value of a man is to go conquer something in the world, build their character and push through their fears. Build a business, leave a legacy etc. So, the problem with this, we’re going to call it a problem, it’s really not a problem, but the disconnect for you is that those guys are big. They’re big, they’re loud, they’ll run you over sometimes to get where they are going. The more masculine a man is, the more he does what he does when he feels like it. Not only that, he’s not asking your permission, you’re not telling him what to do. He’s handling it.
Sometimes they are scary but these are the guys who want women and a family to take care of. They want a kingdom, which is you and the kids and a family. These, masculine men, want to provide for and cherish you. The part you don’t like is they control everything and are difficult to deal with. I teach women how to deal with masculine men. Do you know how masculine men connect with women?
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Andre: Masculine men, connect to, feminine women, by being in their presence. He wants to have you in his space. Most women don’t understand this, they’ll say to you, Lets go to Home Depot and the woman would respond “I don’t want to go there.” You just mess it up. He is inviting you in his space, no talking necessary. By the way. This is when you screw it up. If you’re going to invade his space and then don’t fill it up with talking. You may not get invited back into his space.
Myrna: Why do you say, equality, is the kiss of death in relationships?
Andre: If you equalize our energies together, you neutralize the demand for, polarity, and its diversity so equal relationships are not sustainable. Whether, equality, is in the form of 50/50 on everything, or, equality, in the chores, equality, will essentially kill the sexual dynamics. You become roommates after a while.
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Why do masculine men commit to a woman
Myrna: What makes a masculine man committed to one woman?
Andre: Masculine men have a hard time finding women nowadays because they’re all masculine. Ladies if you want to be the one a masculine man commits to, you have to be a unicorn in the crowd, which means not a masculine woman but a woman with feminine essence.
Masculine Men commit to one woman for these reasons:
Polarity- masculine men want feminine women.
Masculine men are looking for a co- pilot, they don’t want you to fly the plane alone. They need a feminine woman to be by his side. He needs you to be a support system for the life that he has created for his family. Why masculine men commit to one woman? He wants a partner, a co-pilot.
Be his confidant when he needs one. Masculine men will control, manage and lead everything, but often they’ll go babe. “I don’t know what to do with this. What should we do?” This is a partnership, a team that’s working together, flying the plane together. Two pilots, the pilot and the copilot, the president and vice president. In every corporation somebody has to lead and somebody else has to manage.
Myrna: When a man chooses a woman, she is the one he loves and he is definitely looking for his co-pilot, but a lot of men are playing the field and not choosing a woman. He will go out with a whole bunch of women and not commit and then one would come into his life and he’ll commit immediately. So, what are the dynamics here? What you’re saying is that masculine men want to settle down and start a family; only the boys want to play.
Andre: There you go. You are now getting it right, only the boys want to play the field. Masculine men want a kingdom. They want to build a kingdom with you. That’s what makes them get out of bed in the morning. They live for that stuff. Women think that sex is what makes a man settle down. That’s actually the opposite it makes them go. You’re not worthy, you have zero or too low value. Who else has been in here? Not doing it. I’m not doing anything with you.
Myrna: Tell us about your coaching programs and how readers can connect with you.
Andre: My mission is to change the culture of relationships, because what is happening out there is destroying families; destroying the possibility of healthy children. When a family is not healthy or broken, it keeps children from building their own healthy families and having healthy children. So, when you destroy families, you destroy our culture. Now it’s my mission to recalibrate the culture. So, thank you for helping me spread this word.
I have two coaching gifts actually for your listeners. the first one is for the brave and the other one is for the less brave. Coaches are the key to success whether it’s a business coach or life coach, relationship coach or a nutrition coach. Whatever success you are looking for in life a coach can help. This is why the coaching industry is the growing by leaps and bounds. So, if your listeners, resonated with anything I’m saying and they want to talk to me personally then sign up for a free coaching session at www.Andregroupcoaching.com that takes you to my calendar.
Schedule a FREE one-hour session whether it is for men or women. There is a questionnaire to help me sort of understand where you are before you’re on the call and we have a zoom call like this, one on one. On that call we will figure out what’s not working for you and what the dream is. I’m really good. In 15 minutes, we’ll figure out exactly what things came up. It’s typically In childhood trauma or the baggage that we carry.
I can’t get anybody in a healthy relationship until we understand your baggage. So, in that call, we actually unpack the baggage. So that alone is life changing. For some people to understand there’s nothing wrong with them. They just right. And from there, we’re talking about the future. What is it that you want? And then I’ll tell you different options if you want to work with me. You know ABCDE depending on your willingness or your finances, so that’s one way to do it.
The next way is somebody’s who’s not as brave you can email me directly at [email protected]. Write to me, tell me what’s going on. I will answer personally.
The, good girl, label is not about beingmorally good, the problem with being a, good girl, is thatat the end of the day, it doesn’t work.It doesn’t work for anyone. This isn’t an anti-moralityconversation; it’s correcting our idea ofwhat’s good and what’sright.
Sitting in the guest chair today on the Transform Your Mind Podcast, isKasiaUrbaniak. Kasia is the author of “Unbound:A woman’s Guide to Power”. Today, we are going to be talkingabout “How to ditch the, good girl label”.
Bio
Since founding The Academy in 2013, Kasia has taught over 4000 women to radically increase their power, agency and influence. Using practical tools, Academy graduates transform their lives by breaking the yoke of ‘Good Girl’ conditioning. They step boldly into leadership roles within their relationships, families, workplaces, and wider communities.
They become adept in the art of verbal self-defense against bulldozing, bullying, and gaslighting. They make bold, life-changing asks of the people around them in a way that feels good to the person being asked. They can hear “no” without getting flustered or giving up, and use resistance as a way to build intimacy and partnership.
Introduction
Myrna: Kasia, let’s start off by asking youwhat was your journey into founding the Academy, teaching womenthefoundations of power and influence? I read part of your bio that you were once a, dominatrix, I would love to hear about that.
Kasia: I found myself with an unusual set oftraining. I exploredvarious spiritual traditions and wanted to transcend this world.The one that spoke to me because it seemed the most practical andmagical was, Taoism.
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I was a Dominatrix while pursuing monastic education
Now, while I waspursuing my trainingand pursuing monastic education, the ironic part was there was no way for me as a girl growing up in New York Cityto be able to afford such things withoutgetting a job that would pay me a lot ofmoney in short bursts. So, I was workingas a professional, dominatrix, in dungeons in New York City and then flying off tomeet with teachers to convincethem to teach me all the way up to mountaintops in China.
Thislasted for thegreater part of a decade. This straddling, absolutely insane split personality education, where I felt guilty about one when I was doing theother. What started happeningwas these extremes ended upmergingwhen I started diagnosingpeople’s bodies as a, Taoist, trainee.I started going into deeper states ofmeditation and noticed that my training as a, dominatrix, allows me to notice the power dynamics , I startedseeing similarities in my work as a,dominatrix.
I was paying attentionto human beingsand started to understand powerdynamics the way you study martial arts. I began to teach this power to women, I do not teach as a, dominatrix, and I do not teach as anun.
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Afterthis wildlife of extremes, of desiringabsolute purity and devotion while goinginto these wildly psychologically strange, weird and interesting placeswith other humans, I started noticing that I was changing. I saw all my friends around me and allthe people in my life (the womenespecially), living in a world ofassumptions and superstitions.
Women are communicating with their bodies all the time
I started noticing that women didn’t realize that they are physically broadcasting and communicating all the time. That their power magnetic. You could say more submissive,but it’s not submissive at all.
The, good girl, label is not about beingmorally good, the problem with being a, good girl, is thatat the end of the day, it doesn’t work.It doesn’t work for anyone. This isn’t an anti-moralityconversation; it’s correcting our idea ofwhat’s good and what’sright.
Myrna: You had a lot of nuggets andyou’re very right. When your publicist approached meand she started off with the, dominatrix, thing, I pushed back right away until I read the full bio. I understoodwhat you were trying to say.You’re giving women the power of choice. Women canstill be submissive and powerful, right?
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Also, I know that being a people-pleaser and being a,good girl, doesn’t get you anywhere, people walk all over you. We’ve got asaying in my country “ifyou lay down like a doormat, people are going to walk all over you”.So, I understand you help women break the yolk of the,good girl, conditioning. So, tell us why specificallythe label of a, bad girl, is beneficialbecause I’m interested in hearing your spin.
Kasia: Good girl, conditioning has a very longhistory and it comes fromtheagreementthat we make not as spiritual and personal agreement, but an economicagreement of marriage. We have a deal and there’s nothingwrong with even holding that deal today,but the deal is “I willlet you lead, but you provide forme”. So, up until very recently, a woman who had ambition, opinion, a vision and desirescouldn’t express it as an individual. The best she could do and the best way shecould fulfill her ambitions was to marry. The behaviors around the, good girl,are the behaviors we’re calling, good girl, conditioning.
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Such behaviors are basically thebehaviors of how to be marriageable, how to attract and keep agood man, how toqualifyto marry the most economically promising man – given that you can’t have a job, you can’t get educated, you can’t read, and you’re not allowed toleave the house (in some countries).
So, women learn “I don’t want to be aburden”.
How to be resourceful because ifyou’re the economic provider, then I haveto be able tomakebig things out of little things (beresourceful),
Be moderate in temperament,
Not be tooattractiveso as to notget competition, but not to benoticeably unattractive, not to stand outin this way or that way,
Women are not to have too much sexual desire, in fact notto have too much desire at all.
Actually, it’s not just being accommodating, harmonious and warm, but also not havinga voice essentially, they’re from women who are like I‘mnot a, good girl,I don’t need anyone, I‘m fine.
The modern day, people-pleaser, is an outgrowth of the, good girl. Why we call her an outgrowth like asister of the, good girl, but she’s still thesame woman because even though shebelieves that she can haveher desires, she has to go for what she wants by herself. She never asks anybody for help, she neverburdens anybody, she does it all. She isthe feminine and the masculine.She is the alpha female.
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Most of the women who come to my schoolare like this because, they’re verysuccessful. They have families, they havecareersand they have everything they want and they are exhaustedand are furious;they have to do it all.
Myrna: it’s like the superwoman syndrome.
Good Girls learn to say No
Kasia: The problem is that men hold all the cards. Women don’t have the same experience asmen because, men don’t do it all the same way. When they are in positionsofleadership or have a career, they havesupport that the women in their sameplace do not have.
The issue with, good girl,conditioningis – you can say “I‘m an, independent woman, I push back and I stand up for myself. I have learnt how to say No. You can identify with someone whodoesn’t have, good girl conditioning, butthe truth is the conditioning comes outso quicklythat we barely catch it.
We’re programmed and it’s in our subconscious and that is why I founded the Academy with my partnerReuben.
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Myrna: Why do you say specifically that the, bad girl, label isgood? How do you transform them from being a,good girl, to a, bad girl? What does,bad girl, really mean?
Kasia: Okay. We got three things, bad girl,is the first. The first of the threeand the other two are really importantelements ofthe, bad girl.So, the first is a really simple exercise and I want to set up the context ofthis exercise. Bad girls learn to ask for what they want.
I have the women that I work with this exercise which ends up beingmore difficult than it sounds. The intention is to write all the things you feel make you a, bad girl, onto paper. What we want to dois start opening Pandora’s Box in thesafest way possible.
We start with a sentence completion, its part of a sentence you fill in the blank and you repeat it, You write “if I were a, badgirl. I would do ,,,,,,,,,,,”
We use, bad girl, specificallybecause it brings you back to thatyounger age where you start learning what you’resupposed to like, not like, what you’re supposed to think etc.
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The purpose ofwriting all these terrible things is that, the things we didn’t even knowwe put in the, bad girl, closet start comingout. When I explain part two and three, it’s going to become even more apparenthow this works so you start opening the,bad girl, closet.
Myrna: I‘m sure a lot of itis around sex and what, badgirls, do and what, good girls, do not do.
Kasia: Some have ideas and desires of sexual liberation and some have ideas of standing up for themselves. Some feel that anger is bad, that, good girls, do not get angry. Good girls, is part of the submissive conditioning or why,good girls, don’t get angry.
The, good girl conditioning, doesn’t even let you become awarethat your man isdisrespecting you when he calls you names.Maybe he just treats you like amaid and then one day youwake up and start thinking; this is disrespect.
When you tell The Bulldozer, explicitly or implicitly, to back off, they come on even stronger. When you tell The Bulldozer your needs, they will do exactly the opposite. That’s why they’re called The Bulldozer. Because they trample all over your boundaries.
How good girls get respect
Kasia: If you want respect, you never ever say I want youto respect me! That’s communicating there’s something wrong with you.
The moment you arevoicing a complaint, you arecreating an atmosphere of defense. We don’t want to be in defense mode, we obviously want to be in offense, mode.
Myrna: So, how does someone do it, how do we state ourdesires in offensive mode?
Kasia: Themoment you ask them to do somethingspecific, the power dynamichas changed. The issue with women is thattheir energy is too inward:
The moment you start directing theiractions, making those requests thatwould resonate with you as respect, you are in the dominant position. The moment you start making them in control of yourhappinessand telling them they’re doing a bad job, you are in defense mode.
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Myrna: I heard thisa lot that men say, “Oh, she’stoo, high maintenance”, but you’re also saying there’s no such thing as a, lowmaintenance, woman just women who arenot bold enough to ask for what they want.
Kasia: So, high maintenance, is a fad. No woman is, lowmaintenance, but when men complain aboutwomen being, high maintenance, whatthey’re actually saying is not you are too much work. What they’resaying is I never got the instruction manual on how to treat you as a woman.
Men just got used to ignoring and toleratingthe complaints of women, because they neverreally understood what makesthem happy. Women weren’t asking for thethings that would actually light them up, give them orgasms, make themfeel supported and empowered. What men got was a bunch of vague things.
You find a manwho’s getting specific instructions forthe first time; he’s like a little boy ina candy storelike – yes, what can I do next?He feelscompetent and takes care of his women like he takes care of his car!
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Kasia: The book is a step-by-step trainingmanual. It definitely talks about how to ask and how to get off the spotwhen you’re being bullied and bulldozed. There’s a lot of how-to stuff therealso. I teach women howto create allies out of all the men in their lives. The book is also a journeythroughhow toget all of the support that you needfrom the people in your lifeto make your actual dreams anddesires come true.
Not the ones that youthink are attainable and not the onesthat you think are socially acceptable. A huge part of the book is breaking the, goodgirl conditioning.
Myrna: How can those listening and watching in TV connect with you? How can they get a copy of yourbook and get yourget information about yourAcademy?
Kasia: The easiest way to find out more isto go to the website www.weteachpower.com.
We have an announcement on the site of all our classes. Also, there are tons of free resourcesand videos and things that theinterested listeners, viewers and readers canengage with. The book is available everywherebooks are sold. Penguin Randomhouse published itand there’s my Ted talk that I delivered to 10,000people live as well.
Myrna: Thank you forbeing so in-depth about understandingthe mindset of women andthe mindset of the power. What is your social media handle?
Kasia: @realkasiaUrbaniak on Instagram.
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